Wednesday, March 26, 2008
From "Wife-Beater" to "Husband-Beater"
Over the years, men have gained a certain amount of power associated with their work. The real change in work came when men began to work outside of the farm and away from the confines of the home life. Beginning in the 1800s, production moved “out of the household” and into large factories and businesses. People were no longer required to be self-sufficient and grow every crop that they used. With industrialization came dependency. There was a major shift in the tasks assigned to workers. Women, who’s nurturing state caused them to bear and rear children, were required to stay home and tend to a farm or household while the husband went to support the family. Women did not collect a regular salary - therefore were thought to not do any or very little “work.” Men were beginning to have more freedom because they were required to work outside the home. There was soon a demand for a factory work force where only the strong survived. Work became something of contracts, scheduling and six day work weeks. Women soon became accustomed to their “domestic” lifestyle, looking at it as an opportunity to not have to engage in paid employment outside of the home where they were required to live under another’s rules. It soon came to pass that a “lady” only acquired her title because of her father or as a result of a marriage. A woman’s identity was now grounded in her home role.
Leave-it-to-Beaver mothers are simply going out of style. Placing a father in a position of nurturing and caring will change children’s perspective and broaden their views. Children who grow up in homes with strong and dominant fathers have a tendency to rule their household similarly, sometimes taking advantage of their wives. If we take the passive mother role out of the household and allow a father-figure to nurture and care, we create a child who becomes stable and independent as well, having both parents to set examples. Children will have more respect for a wife or mother-figure simply because both parents are satisfied with their positions. With women having more control and power, in the future, the average person will now potentially walk into a store and give a tank-top-like shirt the title of “husband-beater” rather than the contrary.
Women aren't to blame
The conservative view might take the stand that women are far better than men at caring for a family and the house and therefore women should be less career-minded and concentrate on the home and the kids. However this view doesn’t fit into the real world. Can a family now afford for a woman not to work? Women should be able to work with a family if they wish, just like men, but should also work at making sure their career also allows them to give time to their family and children because this is where a problem could come into place.
Another argument is that consumerism is to blame for a breakdown in family life, longer opening hours and Sunday trading means less time is often spent in the home with family members participating in their own activities outside of the home, when traditionally Sundays were a time for a Family to spend together.
In conclusion I believe that if a family work together at spending quality time with each other then their should be no reason why women working is contributing the traditional family breakdown. Consumerism, single and gay parents and changing values is to blame.
Gone Are The Days of The Stay At Home Housewife
Due to the number of women that began to try to have a career and family, the 1980s are known as the “decade of greed.” I believe it should be known as the “decade of prosperity and grow.” Women finally began stepping up and showing they were just as strong as men when it came to handling multiple tasks. For this reason, women also became less dependent on their husbands and finally achieved a life for themselves.
Dana Browning-Ott is happily married with two young children. Browning-Ott owns a dance studio in Toccoa, GA that requires her to work three days a week teaching classes from around 3:00 to 8:00 pm. She believes it is good for children, especially daughters, to see their mother working for herself. She says that although work interferes with her family life a little, for the most part she is happy having a career that allows her to spend a lot of time with her children. “If more women would prepare themselves for the future, more would be able to have both a career and a family” Browning-Ott says.
Autumn Whitworth, a teacher at Woodville Elementary in Habersham, GA, agrees with Browning-Ott in that the reason she chose her profession was because it allowed her to work and still be a huge part of her children’s lives. Whitworth says “I’m independent because my mother was not.” Whitworth said she never wanted to put herself in a position where she could not support her family and her husband respects that.
Although I do not have a family myself yet, I plan to continue my career when I do. I know there are ways to have a career and still be a huge influence on your children. The statistics in Goldin’s book are clear that more and more women are becoming independent and I want to be one of those women. Gone are the days of the stay at home housewife.
Working Women
A few years ago, you could walk into a corporate office and one thing would be missing. That one thing would be women, but as of today and throughout the past few years women have become one of the main forces to be found in professional careers. With the move to a professional workforce, the traditional household has had to make a few modifications.
Look Guys, it's called Anatomy
Freedom for women! Equality of the sexes! Estrogen power! Women, Save yourselves from the evil foot of the devilish white man! Is this not the tune being sung by the rising feminist movement? Perhaps this is only the extremes. However, recently there has been an enormous surge of women in colleges and the workforce. It seems that even though there are no longer campaigns for women’s rights, the feminist movement has never been stronger. Every day the envelop of what is socially acceptable for women is being expanded. The creed of political correctness has changed. It is no longer “equal rights,” but rather “sacred sameness”
Now to be fair, I absolutely agree with equal rights. I believe equal opportunities for all races and genders is absolutely imperative. However, I believe that sameness, absolute equality, sexual in-distinction and gender oriented identically leads to the destruction of the traditional nuclear family. To start, I found the following quotes at http://www.nodnc.com/modules.php?name=Content&pa=showpage&pid=2
"Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women's movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage" -- Sheila Cronan
"In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them" Dr. Mary Jo Bane, feminist and assistant professor of education at Wellesley College and associate director of the school's Center for Research on Woman
"The care of children ..is infinitely better left to the best trained practitioners of both sexes who have chosen it as a vocation...[This] would further undermine family structure while contributing to the freedom of women." Kate Millet, Sexual Politics 178-179
"The nuclear family must be destroyed, and people must find better ways of living together. ... Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process. ... "Families have supported oppression by separating people into small, isolated units, unable to join together to fight for common interests. ... -- Functions of the Family, Linda Gordon, WOMEN: A Journal of Liberation, Fall, 1969.
Thus far we note that many of the prominent supporters of the feminist movement are absolutely for the destruction of the nuclear family. They say that without the destruction of the family there can be no true equality of men and women. I agree. In order for women to become absolutely completely equal to men they must be indistinguishable from men in every possible way. Since the institution of marriage obviously recognizes differences in men, women and children, it can not be a component of an absolutely equal society. Therefore, the increasing rise of women as a product of feministic ideals is fundamentally opposed to the institution marriage and therefore the nuclear family. It is not the presence of women in the workforce that is fundamentally against the family, but rather that idea of absolute, total, sacred equality and sameness of the sexes is fundamentally diametrical to the philosophy of the nuclear family. It isn’t that women have equal rights and opportunities. The family breakdown occurs only when women attempt to make themselves identical to men. Perhaps it could have something to do with the anatomical and neural differences of men and women?
Since this is the case, the logical question that should follow is whether or not these changes in the nuclear family are desirable or dreadful. I say it is detrimental in the extreme. Hitler himself said, “When an opponent declares, ‘I will not come over to your side,’ I calmly say, ‘Your child belongs to us already... What are you? You will pass on. Your descendants, however, now stand in the new camp. In a short time they will know nothing else but this new community.’” In other words, if you can break down the family, if you can indoctrinate the children, then your government will wield absolute power. This is not the American Ideal. "Destroy the family, and you destroy society." -Vladimir Lenin
Overshadowing equality
Now that we are in the 21st century, the role of women has had its biggest change in history. Women are taking the challenge of professional careers.
According to Microtrends by Mark Penn, the rose of women in “wordy” professions has radically increased. This means that women are turning to law, journalism and public relations. However, these are not the only careers on the rise. Almost all of America retains twice as many women than men in a particular profession. The only difference remains in the male counterpart remaining in executive spots as woman try to clime there way up but fail.
Some say that this drive for making it to the top is causing women to focus more on work and less on family. While this may be true, I believe that it is the change in society values that has had more of an influence on the “traditional family”.
Penn states in his book, “Society is becoming more open, more tolerant, and ultimately more able to build on self-suppression rather than suppressing it.” This is absolutely true. Not only has American society opened its mind to ideas about homosexuality and religion but also about single-parent homes and divorce.
In 1999, Tom Smith, Director of the General Social Survey and author of “The Emerging 21st-Century American Family”, gave an interview to The University of Chicago Chronicle predicting the new living situation of the 21st century. He states, “Because of divorce, cohabitation and single parenthood, a majority of families rearing children in the next century probably will not include the children’s two biological parents. Moreover, most households will not include children.”
Americans has become accustomed to marriage being portrayed as a sacred union that one should not break. If it was broken than it would be a disgrace to one’s family and church. No longer is this the case.
Both men and women are free to decide whether or not they want to marry and reproduce. It is their decision how life is divided among work and home. No longer is it unacceptable for a woman to spend many long hours in a downtown office instead of at a home cooking and cleaning. Americans are opening their minds to new ideas and accepting the outcome.
The United States of America prides itself on equality. The fact that women finally have an opportunity to be equal to men in society should not be overshadowed by a preconceived notion that a traditional family should exist.
Women in professional careers are not the leading factor in the decline of children or the rise in divorce rates. There is more than one way to live life and more opportunities available for those who choose to stray from ancient traditions and beliefs. Times are changing and so are the minds of Americans.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
I give up...I can't do it all.
Growing up steeped in the afterglow of all that forward movement, I believed a female could be anything she wanted to be. My career-minded father coached me as I grew up. He encouraged me to cultivate a firm handshake; one that would make a powerful first impression. No limp wrist allowed. I was going to conquer the world or at least remind everyone I met that I could hold my own in an arm wrestling match.
A circuitous path to success led to a sales job that propelled me up the corporate ladder in a company that promoted on merit. Quickly learning to survive in the male dominated construction industry was tough but I was ultimately promoted to national accounts manager for this dynamic playground safety surface company.
I had it all or so I thought: successful career, solid marriage and the freedom that comes from two incomes. There was just something missing. A new opportunity beckoned and I donned a new hat: “Working Mother.”
Oh, I still thought I could have it all. Continuing to crisscross the country during an obscenely healthy pregnancy, I was convinced an eight pound wiggling mass of humanity couldn’t make that much of a difference. The night before I checked into the hospital for a scheduled caesarian section, my to-do list was organized and I was eager to take the next step. Nothing was going to sidetrack my well-laid plans.
With a shiny new baby in one arm, I worked the phone with the other from the temporary cocoon of the maternity ward. Playground projects scheduled all over the United States didn’t present a problem; I had a network of support that would keep every detail in check.
Arriving home, I tucked my son into his crib and said to myself: “This isn’t so hard.” Phones ringing in a home office at the other end of the hall were a pleasant reminder that I was in still in control.
Fast forward four days when hormones and milk collided. What was I thinking? My precious baby boy wailed for sustenance and my chest was the only 24-hour diner in town. The veneer started to crack. I felt betrayed by an entire generation of women. Why didn’t someone tell me how hard it would be? Corporate ladder? Glass ceiling? I just wanted to sit and inhale the intoxicating aroma wafting up from the swaddled bundle I cradled. The carefully laundered baby blankets sopped up my tears those first few hazy weeks.
As I struggled to maintain my professionalism and dignity while juggling poopie diapers and breast pumps, Joseph was spending his days coming up with fresh ways to enchant me. When he was about 15 months old, the E.P.T. test told no lies. The biological clock was in overdrive and a second son was born 26 months after the first. That was when I surrendered and faced a uniquely female crossroads. I dove headlong into the loud, messy but wonderfully sweet world of full-time motherhood. A daughter came along to add icing to the family cake in 1999.
Trading the corporate ladder for a step stool to help my children reach the potty was a conscious decision and one I made with the support of my husband. I was one of the lucky ones. There are no easy answers; only hard choices to make. We can answer only for ourselves and our individual situations. This debate continues to be waged among working mothers and their stay-at-home counterparts.
Women still want to have it all, but maybe we don’t quite know what that means. It is a fleeting vision at best. The background noise of sibling rivalry and the hum of the dryer keep me grounded in a mundane but extraordinary life. However, there is always the siren song of that pesky woman waving a flaming undergarment around. The choice to feed my knowledge-hungry brain and being present for my family is a daily battle. Guilt whispers not so sweet nothings in my ear and I just want to take a nap.
Now that I’m back in school full-time and heading down a different career path, I feel I’m qualified to answer the original blog question with a resounding YES. Granted, this is just my opinion but we’re [women] tired. Bone tired. How in the world can a family be nurtured and sustained without someone to keep the laundry going? Even in the most equitable of marriages and partnerships, there is still a disproportionate amount of responsibility that falls on the shoulders of the female mate.
If I look back at a career gone fallow, I’m at peace with the tidbits of self-discovery I’ve managed to snatch while pulling fish sticks out of the oven. I’m OK knowing my greatest legacy will be that I successfully potty trained three children. I can say I celebrated when they scrawled their name for the first time and when they learned to read. I was there to witness those moments of profound discovery. My children are growing old enough to be independent and I sense there is still time for me to conquer the world. I have no regret that I invested a season in nurturing the gift of family. Maybe the next generation will find the balance I crave.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Assignment Due Wednesday March 26
Friday, March 14, 2008
Keep Guns out of College Campuses
I believe that similar events would have transpired and a “free gun” policy on college campuses would do more harm than good. Bringing a weapon into most situations is simply asking for trouble. It threatens and scares the recipient toward whom an individual is “aiming.” Consider that the average human’s brain is not fully developed in the frontal lobe, which is connected to rational thinking and making sound decisions, until that individual is around the age of 22. If a student attends college directly out of high school, as many do, this would mean that they graduate around the age of 21 or 22 – the time of maturation. So why must we allow guns inside the college campus? We shouldn’t.
Along with a lack of maturation, weapons also do not mix with another dangerous factor – drinking. If an armed student were to become intoxicated, have a brawl with another student, and draw a gun, what would happen to the targeted student? What events could potentially and likely transpire? And yes, it may be a nice idea to think of the two overcoming their differences, shaking hands and being friends, but even if no one is hurt on this night, the second student’s grudge could make him or her apt to retaliate. Although this is a purely hypothetical situation, these events could happen with the second student coming up with the short end of the deal with no way of defending him or herself against a deadly weapon. Allowing guns into colleges would make for an unfair playing field for those who choose not be armed.
As far as campus security carrying guns is concerned, an “out of sight, out of mind” approach would be an effective policy to adopt. Those whose purpose is to protect the students are allowed to have a hidden weapon (gun, baton, mace, etc.). With this policy, students will be told that security personnel are armed, but they won’t see it, except in extreme situations of danger. Students would have a secure feeling, while avoiding the heavy responsibility of a loaded weapon. So rather than the entirety of campus being helpless, students can sleep soundly knowing that there are a select few to whose sole purpose is to protect.
The mission of a college is to educate its students, not place them in a war zone. We as the American public must place a certain distance between college students and weapons in order to keep everyone safe.
Giving Everyone a Gun is Not the Answer
Schools are not as secure as they claim to be. About a month ago at Stephens County Middle School (SCMS) in Toccoa, Georgia, a police officer staged an attempt to carry out a school shooting. SCMS is a very new facility that prides itself in being a safe learning environment. In the officer’s experiment, he easily walked into the school through a side door that is left unlocked for special education purposes. He walked the halls freely without ever once being questioned. Had this not been staged many middle school students could have died that day. How secure does that make you feel?
The answer to this security situation is not to allow anyone and everyone to possess guns on campuses. Although it can be said that if someone had had a gun during the recent school shootings some deaths might have been prevented, it cannot be said that the daily drawbacks don’t outweigh this fact. Students would begin to use guns as self defense more often and more lives would begin to be lost. Also, people could get away with killings much more easily because they wouldn’t even have to hide their gun.
Although I do not believe everyone should be permitted to have guns on campus, I do think campus police should be armed. Campus police are on campus to protect us as a college and I believe having guns would allow them to better do this. I trust them to only use the guns in extreme situations. I do not, however, trust college student to use the same judgment and digression. I would hate for a drunken rage or escalated fight to end in a death because guns were so easily accessible.
Piedmont College administration is currently undergoing debate as to whether there should be an armed officer on campus. If the projected plan goes through, there will be two officers on duty at all times, one certified officer with a gun and one security officer. Personally I would feel safer if we had an armed officer on campus but I would be much more afraid if I knew students possessed guns.
It is sad that our society is even having this debate. It is upsetting to see the families of victims of violent attacks. Campuses should strive to do everything they can to keep students safe.
Guns Control or Just another Temptation?
Recent school shootings have gotten everyone’s attention, but campuses are not sure what to do about the issue. Some campuses are just tightening security while others are actually debating on allowing students to carry weapons to classes.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Early action and alternate solutions save the day
With the recent happenings surrounding the nation in coalition with murders of college students, this statistic is being proven true. Since 2003 there has been at least two prominent shootings on college campuses. The first occurred in April 16, 2007 when a gunman who was a student killed more than 30 people in a dorm and a classroom at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Va. According to NPR.org, “The campus shooting at Virginia Tech was the deadliest in U.S. history.”
The other shooting, which happened more recently, is called the Valentine’s Day shooting because it occurred February 14, 2008. A little over a month ago a man armed with a shotgun opened fire in a lecture hall on the campus of Northern Illinois University. It took this shooting to open the eyes of the American people to the dangers of people obtaining firearms in any school setting, let alone an open college campus.
Beginning in 1966 when Charles Whitman pointed a rifle from the observation deck of the University of Texas at Austin's Tower and began shooting in a homicidal rampage for 96 minutes is when security on every campus should have been tightened and plans been made on how to prevent this from happening again. However, it would seem that as the years went by people allowed the violence to continue as more than 54 college students have been murdered in mass shootings on over 10 years with dozens more being injured.
This leads to the big question as to whether or not students should be allowed to carry guns for protection. Some students including Sarah Funk, a sophomore at Piedmont College, suggest that more people would be apt to die if students carry guns. “There are days when people can get frustrated or annoyed with a class or professor and feel like killing them,” Funk says, “If they were allowed to have guns there would be more opportunity for them to go through with it.”
Several students have suggested having “Code Red” drills like many of the high schools in the area. This would allow students on the Piedmont Campus to have an idea of what to expect if a real shooting were to occur. Some also say that the Security Guards should carry guns in case of an emergency.
This idea has actually been explored by the Piedmont Administration. “Security at Piedmont have not carried guns for at least 10 years because there has never been a threat of violence to the school or students,” say Dick Martin, head of security at Piedmont. It has been discussed that Piedmont have one armed police officer on campus and one security guard at all times.
However, not all students say that there should be no form of protection for each individual. Funk says, “I think that females if not all students should at least have pepper spray or something to use for protection.” This is in reference to the recent murders of three female college students from Georgia who were attending out of state schools.
Although two of these murders are said to be at random and did not occur right on campus soil the idea of self protection remains the same. Students could use the pepper spray as some kind of deterrent to allow themselves ample time to escape their attackers and possibly prevent another murder.
It is coming up with alternative solutions that will solve the problem at hand. A person cannot fight fire with fire. Therefore, the answer to preventing campus shootings nationwide is not to give everyone guns but to find some way to outsmart the attacker in a quick and orderly manner.
More Guns on Campus?
Some college students are pushing for schools to allow them to carry guns on their campus, following the massacre at Virginia Tech where 32 students and faculty were fatally shot the feeling amongst some is that students should have the right to protect themselves if they are in such a situation. Nationwide, 38 states ban weapons at school, and 16 of these specifically ban guns on college campuses, in fact Utah is the only state that specifically allows people to carry concealed weapons on public colleges.
However many believe that allowing students the right to use weapons in defense will not mean that they are going to use them safely, or train them to use them responsibly. I agree with this point of view however I also think that colleges need to have some defense against the shootings of its students. Andrew Dysart, a George Mason University Senior organized a group of students to campaign for Concealed Carry on Campus in the hope of allowing campuses to have ‘concealed, trained carriers’ of guns in the event of emergency. “There’s no way to know what could have happened, but the students at Tech, they really should have had a chance, “Dysart said.